Making Peace with Past Abortion Choices

In my book, It’s Your Time for a Comeback, I discuss how important it is to heal from the past. This is especially true for women over fifty. Resolving hurts from our past allows us to embrace God’s promises for the second half of our lives. We do this by learning to forgive God and others – and most especially, ourselves.

Decades of Silence

One of the often-unhealed areas of a woman’s heart is the trauma that comes after having an abortion. This is because many women — especially those growing up in the 60s and 70s — have long kept silent. Back then, there was a greater stigma attached to an unwanted pregnancy. This was especially true if the woman was unmarried, in her teens, or the victim of sexual abuse. Women often carried deep shame. Or, they feared the sting of rejection by their families or by the father of the baby. They kept their past abortion choice a secret and did whatever was necessary to put it out of their thoughts. Sometimes for decades.

Stored Memories

Like any trauma, the body, soul, and mind always keep a record. The longer a woman buries the memory, the more she will begin to experience different mental, physical and relational problems. These are symptoms that her soul and body are crying out for healing. However, she may not recognize that the symptoms have to do with her past abortion. That is why this type of trauma often goes unseen and unhealed.

No More Coping

Even when women do recognize why they are hurting, they may find it impossible to forgive themselves. They may not know where to get help — or that help exists. Guilt and shame tempt women to believe the lie that God can never forgive them. They do what they can to cope with the symptoms without knowing that God can and will set them completely free:

“If the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” ~ John 8:36

Choosing Freedom

Thirty years ago, I walked my own journey of inner healing from past abortion choices. This is how I know firsthand the emotional, physical, and spiritual realities. The “ripple effect” continues long afterward until healing comes. So, I encourage women to reach out for help NOW, and begin their healing journey TODAY. Even if it has been years or decades afterward. With God, healing and freedom are still possible!

Recommended Reading

Ongoing Resources

Now is a great time to SUBSCRIBE to my free monthly e-newsletter. Each edition will include additional resources that will encourage and inspire you. You can stay informed about upcoming workshops, e-courses, and more. I invite you to subscribe today!

In the meantime, please know that I am praying for you, and that you’re not alone! ~ Susan